There is a lot of hype surrounding the release of 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM. Here is some food for thought from the mouth of Esther Perel, therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.
Perel says, “I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex–purged of any expressions of power, aggression, and transgression–is antithetical to erotic desire. Ironically, some of America’s best features–the belief in democracy, equality, consensus-building, compromise, fairness, and mutual tolerance–can, when carried too punctiliously into the bedroom, result in very boring sex. Sexual desire doesn’t play by the same rules of good citizenship that maintain peace and contentment in the social relations between partners.”
In other words, go get your freak on.